I guess my beliefs conflict with my sense of political efficacy which, in its own way, makes me as much of a hypocrite as Craig.

I currently live in NYC so everyone pretty much ignores it when my boy and I walk down the street but I do worry about what will happen when/if we move.

I also think that queer desire is controlled any time it is expressed, even ‘normatively.’ I’m thinking here of the social policing that comes when I walk down the street holding someone’s hand. Pretty intense. And in terms of actual criminality, sodomy laws are still on the books in plenty of places.

I personally have no problem with consensual public/non-monogamous/non-relational sex, however, I think a lot of “us queers” lead totally normative lives that never venture into public parks, stalls, or gym showers. I hate the conflation of homosexual desire with other forms of non-normative sexuality — While the desire for inclusivity comes from a noble place on the left, it easily supports the conservative agenda by allowing the easy comparison of gays to pedophiles, zoophiles, etc.

John–

I agree that consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds, but Craig’s level of hypocrisy is astounding. He voted for DOMA and against including gays under hate crime legislation. Regardless of how he identifies, he has acted against the interest of those with similar sexual (alleged) behaviors to himself. Also, he’s only recently come to possibly favor civil unions and has not taken a strong stance either way.

My take over at Probably Awkward.